{"id":1602632,"date":"2020-10-04T11:24:08","date_gmt":"2020-10-04T15:24:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/divine.ca\/?p=1602632"},"modified":"2020-10-04T11:31:23","modified_gmt":"2020-10-04T15:31:23","slug":"negotiation-and-why-you-are-a-negotiator-even-if-dont-think-you-are","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/divine.ca\/en\/negotiation-and-why-you-are-a-negotiator-even-if-dont-think-you-are\/","title":{"rendered":"Negotiation and Why You are a Negotiator Even if Don\u2019t Think You Are"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you are a mother, you are a negotiator<\/a>.\u00a0 If you are a daughter, you are a negotiator. If you are a caregiver and not an only child, sharing the responsibilities of looking after your parents is a negotiation.\u00a0 Picking a restaurant is a negotiation. In fact, even small encounters at grocery stores can be a negotiation. You don\u2019t have to take our word for it. Award-winning negotiator, Donna Hughes, founder of Launch Negotiation,<\/a> believes that we negotiate each and every day about something. Donna is passionate about empowering others to harness their innate negotiation potential and we turned to her to help us learn how to negotiate in our new reality in our latest 4-part series on DIVINE.<\/p>\n

What is Negotiation?<\/h2>\n

In very simple terms, negotiation is a discussion that leads to an agreement.\u00a0 Nothing more, nothing less. We complicate negotiations because we don\u2019t see how it plays into every day life.\u00a0 Negotiations on TV shows, for example, are often power struggles where one character comes out on top.\u00a0 We see high level negotiations between governments when we watch the news.\u00a0 Negotiation, at it\u2019s core, however, is not complex.<\/p>\n

A Growth Mindset<\/h2>\n

According to Donna, having a growth mindset is key to negotiating. In her work, she has seen a lot of people say that \u201cI can\u2019t negotiate\u201d, \u201cI\u2019m not trained\u201d or \u201cI\u2019ll never be good at negotiation. I\u2019m not skilled at it\u201d. It is a growth mindset built around recognizing the word yet<\/strong>.\u00a0 You might not be a skilled negotiator yet<\/strong>, but that\u2019s something that you can change by redefining how you look at negotiation.<\/p>\n

Instead of looking at it as this big boardroom negotiation, where you may be inexperienced, understand where it plays into your daily life.\u00a0 If you are working from a shared household, for example, it\u2019s where you start one of these every day conversations where you are trying to do is reach an agreement over what room you are going to have a Zoom meeting. It could be negotiating the time for a call or if it will be audio or video meeting with your colleagues. It may also be a discussion around domestic duties or childcare duties.\u00a0 According to Donna:<\/p>\n

\u201cAll of these small, micro-negotiations are all great practice for the higher stakes conversations that come to mind when we think of negotiation.\u00a0 It\u2019s the accumulation of all of these smaller conversations that shape the life that we live, work-life balance and the life that you have outside of work as well.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Start Small<\/h2>\n

If you are nervous about negotiating, remember that you can try it in your everyday life. Donna gave a great example to start with. When people make appointments, they often take the first one available and work around that.\u00a0 They take the time off of work, arrange child care and their entire day is scheduled to make this appointment. \u00a0What if you could simply ask if there was a better time that would work with your schedule? \u00a0That is a negotiation!\u00a0 Having those conversations can really shape your life because it means you won\u2019t have to re-arrange everything.\u00a0 View everything <\/strong>as negotiable.<\/p>\n

Summing It Up<\/h2>\n

Negotiation is beneficial to everyone.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t have to be a struggle \u2013 you just have to practice it every single day.\u00a0 Think about it in basic terms and it isn\u2019t that scary.\u00a0 Donna will teach us to \u201cNegotiate Like a Child\u201d in part two of out our series.<\/p>\n

Follow Launch Negotiation on Instagram @launchneg<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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